Petty: small and unimportant (i.e. petty squabbles/ restrictions) Concerned with small and unimportant matter, especially when this is unkind to other people. (How could you be so petty?)
I was talking to a friend earlier after she texted me about a tiff she had with one of her other friends over something that didn’t seem to merit a fight in my eyes. She told me about how her friend had felt snubbed about an activity that she was not directly included initially. She began yelling on the phone about how she was so angry that she had not been included in something she thought she should. Now in defense of my friend, let’s call her Candy, she had every intention of including her in the activity but hadn’t figured out how yet, (after all every activity ain’t for everyone). And the other friend, let call her Lollipop, has a history of being very particular about what she wants to participate in, which is of course, her prerogative.
I was talking to a friend earlier after she texted me about a tiff she had with one of her other friends over something that didn’t seem to merit a fight in my eyes. She told me about how her friend had felt snubbed about an activity that she was not directly included initially. She began yelling on the phone about how she was so angry that she had not been included in something she thought she should. Now in defense of my friend, let’s call her Candy, she had every intention of including her in the activity but hadn’t figured out how yet, (after all every activity ain’t for everyone). And the other friend, let call her Lollipop, has a history of being very particular about what she wants to participate in, which is of course, her prerogative.
Now, how many of us have had a less than shining moment in regards to making an incorrect assumption? How many of us have assumed the worst of something or someone before getting the whole story? AND how many of us have felt like a complete and utter jackass after we were proven wrong? All of us!!! I know I have ☺ !
But that leads me to the next point, when will we all learn to not sweat the small stuff, especially when friends and family are involved? I can understand feeling left out or forgotten about and I can even understand having a tiny little pang of jealously when you feel like you could have been included in something when someone else was in your stead. However, isn’t the point of friendship understanding one another or at least trying to? When you have a dear friend and you jump to a silly conclusion about what that person did, I feel like that you show them several things you might not want to:
- You’re insecure in your friendship and probably more than a little insecure in yourself
- You’d rather start a fight than get to the bottom of what’s bothering you
- You’re a petty/selfish dumbass!!!
Is that really what you want to show your friends about yourself? I’m 99% sure its not. With any relationship, you have to strive to be honest, open and willing to trust that other person or people with your feelings. It’s taken me a long time to get to this point but when you open yourself up to growth, something magical happens…its called maturity! More people should try it out!
The point of this Public Service Announcement was to get you guy’s wheels turning. Maybe you reacted “unfavorably” to a situation that you weren’t completely clued into or maybe you said or did something and didn’t consider someone else’s feelings when you did it. Now is the time to make amends and say sorry. Life is too short to spend it being angry. Go try on some understanding because we all know yesterday is history and tomorrow’s a mystery but today is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.
Arielle out!
1 comment:
This is very interesting. I often wonder do we really examine the full picture or only what we need to build case for our own perspective. Could it be that Lollipop have had hurt feelings about something deeper? Or was it just whatever the petty situation could be.
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